The Only Thing to Fear is Fear Itself

So, you know that old saying about how the only thing to fear is fear itself?  I really believe that lately.  I think it goes hand in hand with confidence.  When you have confidence, you demolish fear, meaning any fears you would have had, do not come true.  

For example, if you are in a relationship and you are constantly in fear that you will be betrayed, this will probably happen. If you have a job and you are constantly in fear that you will be fired, it will probably happen. 

When you are parent, now please if you are a parent please pay attention to this..  When you have kids, your biggest fear I’m guessing is losing them or them not being successful in life.  When you constantly are in fear of this, you are probably pushing them away.  

Let go of your fears.  Be confident.  If you push somebody or something away, it will probably go away.  Whether it is a boyfriend, a job, a child… Have confidence.  Trust in yourself and trust in those who you love.  This is just my short little blog of real life advice.  People enjoy my writing because it is very real and I am very genuine.  I’m just talking about real things and real life and I am not perfect, I will never know everything, but this right here, I promise you this is important.  

 

Learn to let go.

Learn to trust.

Learn to have confidence.

And I promise you everything will be ok. 🙂

 

 

HAPPY TUESDAY!

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Starting Something Inspiring

I am new to business and new to entrepreneurship.   I am new to the idea of “be your own boss”.  I am new to the idea of “hustling”.  Ten months ago, I met my best friend and boyfriend and while getting to know each other and helping each other grow, I have learned so much!  The traditional idea of get a job so you can go to school, so you can get a job working for somebody else for the rest of your life, then retiring long after is not so traditional to me anymore.  Obviously having a job right now is important, I do work for someone else at the moment, and I am going to school to get my degree.  However, what I’m learning is that you can literally do whatever you want to do!  If you need some money, go out and make some money!  If you want to start a business, then start one!  I had a lot of dreams growing up.  Even back when I was in my elementary years I was organizing clubs and groups, and begging my dad to help me start my own business.  I would have been happy with anything!  I mapped it out, planned it out, but didn’t seek it out.  I didn’t have the necessary resources.  I wasn’t raised that way.  I was a little too “creative” to some.  Now, that wasn’t anyone’s fault, that was just the mindset of the community I was raised by.  “Stop dreaming, just finish school and get a good job,” I was told.  “Your ideas are not realistic.”  Let me tell you right now, never stop dreaming!  Last year, we had a dream.  Our dream is coming to life.  We are starting our own business.  People will always shake their heads.  They will always tell you, be realistic and be responsible.    I say follow your dreams AND be realistic and responsible.  I’m still working and I’m still going to school, yet we are starting our own business on the side.  Let me tell you, it’s an amazing feeling.  It’s a very long and not really easy process, but we are patient.  We have never rushed anything.  Success comes with time, patience, and dedication.  That’s exactly what we’ve been doing.  We have so many dreams and ideas I could never possibly put it on paper, but let me tell you that if you have a dream, an idea, or a slightest thought.. RUN WITH IT!  “Shoot for the moon, and if you don’t make it you will land in the stars,” we always tell each other.  

Feel free to check out out blog for one branch of our new business.  We just put it together today and we are very excited!  Expect to see great things from us.  I know we are going to be very successful.  The sky is not the limit.  WE HAVE NO LIMIT.  

CHECK US OUT: http://stylelyte.com

~HAPPY DREAMING~

Style Updates

STYLE UPDATES

As many of you know, Instagram is pretty big now especially since Facebook just bought it out.  I love fashion and style and photography so from now on I will be sharing my instagram photos with you guys and I have a few photos on here with some great style that I would love to share!!

 
This first photo is my boyfriend and I.  A lot of people tell me this looks like a magazine photo and it looks professional which is very flattering!  We were just hanging out and decided to shoot this picture on his iphone and I edited it on Iphoto.  It turned out very well.  I have on a simple black dress, a couple rings, bracelet, necklace, and pink shoes to add little splashes of color and fun to the look.  Desean’s outfit consists of a dark wash pair of jeans, belt, brown button up, bow tie (which I tied and I’m pretty proud of that!) all from Elsworth Men’s Clothing, and a knock out jacket from Macy’s.  He also added to the outfit a pocket square for character.  Now, your pocket square doesn’t have to match your outfit, just compliment it.

Here, we were at Elsworth Menswear in downtown Minneapolis.   Desean was having an outfit put together for that night.  I really like this picture and I actually took it because of the jeans.  They just look amazing on him.  The fit, wash, and style just looks great.  He also mentioned how comfortable they are.  

This is a shirt from my store Maurice’s, one of my ABSOLUTE FAVORITES!  The bottom is fitted to your body and as you go up the ruffles are so adorable and feminine and it comes up and wraps around the neck for a classic look.  All the jewlery you would need with it is a bracelet or ring or both.  In this photo I paired it with a jean skirt.  

This last shirt is a fun summer shirt I picked up from Maurice’s as well.  I absolutely love this one as well.  It’s so fun and it fits very well to your body.  I love how one strap is very thin and the other side is thicker.  The neckline is very flattering.  

HOPE YOU ENJOYED MY STYLE UPDATE!

HAPPY STYLING!!!

My Life Update

So, the basic point of this blog is just a quick update on my life.  (Since that is the topic of my page.:) )

I am moving to the city in June.  With my boyfriend that is.  I, personally am very excited and so is he.  It’s a big step in life but it will be a great one.  I’ve never met somebody who brings so much good out of me besides for my family.  My family is part supportive and part not.  My cousins are supportive of me.  Of course they want me to be careful and make the right decisions, but I have their support.  My parents, however are another story.  They are not mad at me (well maybe my dad is.. I hope not..), but they wish I would wait longer.  In my opinion it is the right decision and if it is not, then I will learn it on my own.  That would be on me, not anyone else.  I would not make this decision though, with any doubt in my mind.  I have 100% faith in the relationship I have with my boyfriend and the relationship I have with God and know they will take me far in life.  I know I will work hard and I know I will be successful.   I want to finish school with either marketing or retail merchandising depending on what school I am accepted into.  For either one I have about a year of credits completed so far.  (I had to start over with school, because of my major change.  I used to want to work in medical.)  My boyfriend and I have the entrepreneur mind set and we want to start our own business and be very successful together and grow as people, as a couple, and as business professionals.  

 

I will be transferring to another Maurice’s, however the management team in the store I plan to transfer to is full so I will have to take a part time associate’s position which is fine.   I can find a second part time job in walking distance especially  for the summer.  Its going to be a lot of sacrifice and work but also a lot of new adventures and fun!

New Home

So here’s to growth both personal and business!  To a life time of learning and new opportunities!

Happy Growth!!

To Trust or not to Trust. That is the Question.

trust  |trəst|

noun

1. firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something : relations have to be built on trust | they have been able to win the trustof the others.

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So… what is trust anyways?  What does it mean to trust somebody?  Not just to say I trust you, but to fully put everything you have into their hands knowing it will be ok.  And what do you do when they mess up?  When they do things UNtrustworthy, where do you go with that?  There are many ways to go about it..  Confrontation: assume, ask them, yell, be calm, or just let it go and just forget it happened.  Now, none of these are easy in a situation of this sort.  Confrontation leads to a defensive person.  Not saying anything can stress you out more.  You wonder, “will it ever happen again?”, “what does it mean?”  Honestly, when you are in that situation only you can be the judge of how serious the situation is.  If it repeats itself, it definitely needs to be addressed.  If it’s very minor and only happens once, well everyone makes mistakes, so keep that in mind.

BUT

where’s the fine line?  It’s a question of when do you know to stay and when do you dip out?  And how do you know when to make these tough decisions?  This is something I have struggled with myself, and I don’t have all the answers.  Some situations are black and white- some situations are in a grey area.  Sometimes it’s obvious whether to stay or to go or to trust or to not trust.  Sometimes, however it’s justifiable, sometimes there are excuses, other explanations you never thought of.  But are those true?  Well, do you trust this person?

This can go for any relationship.  A teacher, a boss, a friend, a family member, a boyfriend or girlfriend, yourself even.  And many things go into this.  How long have you known them?  What is their history like?  How close is the relationship?  One thing that I know is hard first of all, how do you trust someone who has hurt you before?  What’s even harder is how do you show someone that you trust them once you do have that trust regained.  Some old habits and insecurities can linger, because you don’t know how else to handle a situation,  and it can send mix messages.  It’s kind of something you have to go through on your own.  It’s more a battle with yourself.  Old you vs. new you.  Only YOU can give yourself your confidence, only YOU can decide who you do and do not trust.

ONLY YOU CAN DO YOU!!!

Never let your past get the best of you, use your best judgement, and eliminate untrustworthy people from your life.  As soon as I started to do this, the circle around me got smaller and smaller, but it got tighter.  The people surrounding you should be inspiring, honest people who push you to be the same!

Trust is a word that goes deep.  I live my life around this word.  Trust and be trusted.  Now, I’ve had some terrible past experiences, but I still trust.  I trust my family, I trust my few friends, I trust my boyfriend.  (I just want to add, even though some people have hurt me that’s where the personal judgement comes in.  Sometimes you will still trust people after they made a mistake.  The people I could not bring myself to trust are gone from my life, but the people I still put my trust into are still very much in my life because I am looking at the big picture and looking at who truly makes me happy.)  Insecurities from being hurt don’t go away over night, but you do have to get over them to be happy with your life.

I am over my insecurities!  I am confident!  I am amazing and happy and anyone who thinks they can do what I do or who thinks they can make me feel otherwise, well they my friend are a fool. =)

"hear me rawr"

The first definition I found on confidence was this:

confidence

noun

1. the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust 

This goes right along with the first definition I found on trust and what I said about a relationship with anyone in your life.  This one is just as important because you should definitely have confidence in someone you invest your time in, during your life.

The next one to consider is the first one you should learn to master.

• a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s ownabilities or qualities 

Happy Reflecting! 🙂