Be Quick to Listen and Slow to Speak

One of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever heard is “Be quick to listen and slow to speak.”

It seriously makes so much sense.  I was on Facebook this morning and came across

this photo.  I love this because this is something that can really help me.  At times I can

be pretty quick to talk and slow to listen.  I have to constantly remind myself to always,

always listen well.  I also have a small little habit of “word vomit”, which is not really

in my favor.  You know, those thoughts that pop into your head and you for some reason

just absolutely can not hold them in?  Yeah, those.  So, I came across this photo!

This really spoke to me and I want to read it a few times and keep it in my head.

I want to remember these questions as I go through my day and as I speak my

mind to others.  Don’t just go spitting out any words that your brain crosses.


Stop.  Think!!!!

Be sure to listen.  And then speak..

if it is true, helpful, inspiring,

necessary, and kind.





How Important are the Details?


Topic of the day!  Okay, relationships can be a lot of fun!  But don’t let hollywood fool you.. a good, healthy, and stable relationship is a lot of hard work.  I can promise you right now it will never be easy.  

I would have to say the two top things that YOU have to do, not you as a couple, but you as an individual who is a part of the relationship, have to do to survive your relationship are as follows: 

  1. Get independent.  The earlier you start, the much easier this will be.
  2. Do not, and I repeat, DO NOT worry about the little details.
When you are dependent on somebody you are in a relationship with, it typically does not go very successfully.  Somebody usually gets annoyed of the other, or you both do.  Having your own independence within the relationship 
allows you both to do your own thing.  You don’t have to share the same hobbies, friends, and lifestyle with each other.  In fact, the more things you don’t have in common, the more you have to talk about!  If you do everything together all day long, imagine how little you will have to discuss.  When you went off and did your own thing, and the other person does theirs, at the end of the day you honestly will have so much more to talk about.  You probably even missed each other.  The less you see that person, the more you truly appreciate their presence!  Also, something I have learned about being dependent on somebody in a relationship is that you sort of lose sight of how to socialize on your own!  You can become so dependent on a person, that you forget how to socialize!  You can forget how to go out and just be on your own.  This is why you have to push yourself out there, make your own friends, get your own hobbies.  Seriously, just do what you love doing, do what makes you happy. 
Details, guys.  They can get you into a lot of trouble.  How important are details?  Are they important to you?  How important do they become though, when it comes down to the two of you arguing over every little detail of something that person did that you just can’t seem to understand.  You don’t need an explanation for everything!  That’s why you are in a relationship with this person.  You trust them.  You trust God, because you know he would never steer you wrong.   If this isn’t the person you are meant to spend the rest of your life with, then there are probably some pretty good lessons to be learned out of it .  So, basically, you don’t need to spend your time worrying about every little detail in the relationship.  Every little thing said or done.  Focus on the big picture.  Now, I’m not telling you to ignore all the details and forget about them.  Definitely still pay attention!  Be aware of the details and what is going on with you and what is going on with the relationship.  Just, don’t analyze every little thing.  Because trust me, in the moment something small like that, that really bothers you and you just had to start up that argument, you will regret it later.   It’s just you two in the relationship.  You trust each other.  You love each other.  So, seriously, bite your tongue sometimes.  It’s not worth it.  Once you start letting little things go, that really don’t matter you will feel a difference.  It is way less stressful for you and you can really take time to focus on yourself and on the two of you.  
Have fun together!  It’s your relationship!  Do your own things, but make that special time for each other.   My boyfriend and I live together, but our schedules are about to get really crazy with work and then when school starts, so we decided that we will devote one night a week to each other.  Just the two of us.  We can do whatever we want, no commitments to our schedules.  We can just relax and have fun.  Go out, or do whatever.  Then, the rest of the week we will commit back to our schedules at work and school.  
Just remember to have fun and not worry so much.  Read a lot.  Listen carefully.  And talk only when necessary.

Curly Hair!

Ok, so my latest obsession is curly hair!  

Anyways, I need new extensions and my

roots aren’t the greatest, but seriously when

you curl your hair none of that matters it just looks good!

Like, ok it takes me a little bit longer to

do because I have to straighten all of the

hair, and then go through and curl it.

But once it’s straight, the curling really

doesn’t take that long.  And I really don’t

mind doing it as long as I have the time!

Because it just looks so cute!!!

I was never really one to curl my hair

it was always just down and straight.

But seriously, you guys curls are so 

pretty and they are my new fave look!

If you have your “typical hairstyle” you always 

wear, I suggest branching out and trying something  

new!  Who knows, you may just fall in love with it!

It may be the perfect new look for you this summer!!





Twelve Days!!


I have been so busy lately, I have been neglecting my blog pretty badly!  I move into my new apartment in about 12 days! AHH!! I could not be more excited about this!  Life is going to be a lot different in many ways, but in some very good ways!  I am going to get to live comfortably and peacefully with my amazingly supportive other half and all our nice things!  Some people say it’s not rational to be living in such a nice place while in college, but honestly with the mindset my boyfriend and I have, we wouldn’t settle for anything less at this point.  We both have a go getter attitude and when we want something we get it.  I read in the book, Rich Dad Poor Dad, that one aspect to the difference between a “rich mindset” and a “poor mindset” is your reaction to seeing something you really want.  Thinking with a “poor mindset”, you see something you really want but shrug and walk away thinking you simply cannot afford it.  Having a “rich mindset”, you see something you really want and you think long and hard and say, “HOW can I afford this?”  You don’t have to buy everything you want that you see, most definitely not your life would become way too cluttered, however this mindset difference, sets you apart from others.  It can make you very successful.  This is why we are going to live in a very nice apartment with the given amenities we like!   Given, we may sometimes have to eat an inexpensive meal or occasionally skip out on our daily caribou coffee to save money for rent at the end of the month, but that’s sacrifice.  You weigh your opinions.  You can pick up extra hours, get a second job.  There are many ways to get what you want, you just have to have the right attitude!  

I also start school up again soon!  I’m going to be taking one online class this summer while I settle into our new place and work a bunch of hours to save money for fall and then I’m going to throw myself into school and get my marketing degree.  I recently in my life chose to switch majors for college, so instead of being three years in, I’m really only a year in with the credits that count towards my new major.  This is definitely fine though, because I would rather spend a couple extra years in college to do what I really want to do than to get a degree I found out I’m really not interested in!

I start my job at the new store June 1st!!! I’m kind of nervous… I’ve been told my new team is a VERY head strong team.  For anyone who knows me, I have a pretty soft and sensitive personality.  So I’m sort of wondering how this is going to all go down.  Honestly, if it isn’t the store for me, there are other ones in the mall.  I also have the qualifications to work at a nursing home or hospital for quite a better pay than I would make in retail, so I have many options.  Even though that’s not my pursuit anymore it can sure pay the bills! 🙂


Hope you all had an amazing week and ENJOY THE WEEKEND and make sure to spoil your momma on Sunday!!! 🙂

Happy Mother;s Day Weekend! 

My Instagram

This is my dog Lacy!

Enjoying the warm weather!

My dog Sammy!

I found this saying online and made my own version of it on sketchbook 🙂

These are just a few of my latest and greatest photos I’ve posted on instagram 😉  I love them so I figured I would share them with you!

Happy Thursday!

The Only Thing to Fear is Fear Itself

So, you know that old saying about how the only thing to fear is fear itself?  I really believe that lately.  I think it goes hand in hand with confidence.  When you have confidence, you demolish fear, meaning any fears you would have had, do not come true.  

For example, if you are in a relationship and you are constantly in fear that you will be betrayed, this will probably happen. If you have a job and you are constantly in fear that you will be fired, it will probably happen. 

When you are parent, now please if you are a parent please pay attention to this..  When you have kids, your biggest fear I’m guessing is losing them or them not being successful in life.  When you constantly are in fear of this, you are probably pushing them away.  

Let go of your fears.  Be confident.  If you push somebody or something away, it will probably go away.  Whether it is a boyfriend, a job, a child… Have confidence.  Trust in yourself and trust in those who you love.  This is just my short little blog of real life advice.  People enjoy my writing because it is very real and I am very genuine.  I’m just talking about real things and real life and I am not perfect, I will never know everything, but this right here, I promise you this is important.  


Learn to let go.

Learn to trust.

Learn to have confidence.

And I promise you everything will be ok. 🙂




50 Ways to be Humble

So, I can not take credit for this amazing list, however, I do feel responsible to send it on to others.  Something I have been pushing myself to do lately is, as you read in the title, 50 ways to be humble.  Sounds easy, right?  No, it’s really not when you’re not in the habit of it already.  And even if you are, I still think you should read this list.  I have realized lately that I am not great.  I am actually nothing.  God is everything.  And I know everyone is not religious and those who are have different gods and different beliefs.  To me, though, at the end of the day all “religions” believe in a higher power.  Even if you don’t, you must know that the universe is much greater than you.  Infinity is massive.  It’s powerful.  As humans, we can do great things.  But this is not because we are great.  Like I said we are actually nothing.  We are transparent and with our transparency, the power of infinity or God, or whatever you believe in will show through you and make great things happen.  Once you realize this, once you know this, I can promise you little by little you will feel happier and many situations will go smoother for you.  So, check out this list and really think about it.  Soak it in.  Reread if you would like.  Take notes.  Enjoy 🙂

                                                        50 Ways to be Humble

    1. Use the response “It’s My Pleasure” when someone thanks you for doing something.
    2. Use the response “I’d be honored” when someone asks you to help them or do something with them.
    3. Listen more than you talk
    4. Count to 3 before adding to a conversation to ensure the other person is done
    5. Be willing to follow another person in conversation even if you don’t get to talk about your idea
    6. Always offer to improve someone else’s idea and give them credit
    7. Give credit for other’s ideas that you are carrying through on
    8. Ask others for the opinion of others
    9. Ask others to join conversations and contribute
    10. It’s OK to be wrong and so admit it
    11. Admit when you don’t understand or know something
    12. Appreciate others who learn something quickly and say so
    13. Be quick to apologize when you do something wrong
    14. Study moral principles
    15. Use moral principles to guide you
    16. You are God’s creation, not your own
    17. Recognize your talents as gifts, not your own ability
    18. Know how your skills have only be developed by the help of others
    19. Share your own knowledge to pass on what you have learned
    20. Pass on thanks when you receive it to those who helped you achieve what was thanked
    21. Value other people’s time as much as your own
    22. Never equate time spent with people to a dollar value
    23. Don’t boast about your achievements, let others recognize them instead
    24. Keep your goals to yourself
    25. Help other people with their goals
    26. Realize the potential in others
    27. Know that timing is everything and everyone excels at different times in life
    28. Being the 1st follower is often the best way to lead
    29. Since winning isn’t everything, you don’t have to win
    30. Recognize that you have faults
    31. Remember you are a sinner (in other words, you are no better or worse than anyone else)
    32. Ignore first impressions of people
    33. Give others the benefit of the doubt
    34. Provide positive and encouraging feedback instead of criticism
    35. Make a choice to act more humbly
    36. Practice at least one humble act each day
    37. Be grateful for successes without boasting about them
    38. Know how to accept praise with a simple thank you, don’t elaborate on it or talk more about it
    39. Recognize the individualism of others and yourself, there is no need to conform
    40. Share your core values and live them accordingly regardless of the circumstances
    41. Prioritize things in your life and rate your actions on whether to followed that priority or not
    42. Rate other people as first, be less significant
    43. Forgive those who wrong you and move on without revenge or lashing back
    44. Serve others and not yourself first
    45. Seek wisdom, which is knowledge of what is true coupled with just judgment of action
    46. Recognize and know that you know little and there is always more to learn
    47. Avoid explosive reactions, and subside any aggression
    48. Accept new ideas and change, not being stuck on what you knew before
    49. Teach all that you can for the benefit of others
    50. Learn from and model the life of the most humble teachers in history (Jesus, Gandhi, Mother Teresa, Buddha, etc)

So, I hope you have enjoyed this list of 50 ways to be more humble as much as I did.  And I sincerely hope you really let it soak it and can try to apply it to your own life.  

Happy humility!