Be Quick to Listen and Slow to Speak

One of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever heard is “Be quick to listen and slow to speak.”

It seriously makes so much sense.  I was on Facebook this morning and came across

this photo.  I love this because this is something that can really help me.  At times I can

be pretty quick to talk and slow to listen.  I have to constantly remind myself to always,

always listen well.  I also have a small little habit of “word vomit”, which is not really

in my favor.  You know, those thoughts that pop into your head and you for some reason

just absolutely can not hold them in?  Yeah, those.  So, I came across this photo!

This really spoke to me and I want to read it a few times and keep it in my head.

I want to remember these questions as I go through my day and as I speak my

mind to others.  Don’t just go spitting out any words that your brain crosses.

 

Stop.  Think!!!!

Be sure to listen.  And then speak..

if it is true, helpful, inspiring,

necessary, and kind.

 

 

HAPPY THINKING 🙂

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How Important are the Details?

Relationships!

Topic of the day!  Okay, relationships can be a lot of fun!  But don’t let hollywood fool you.. a good, healthy, and stable relationship is a lot of hard work.  I can promise you right now it will never be easy.  

I would have to say the two top things that YOU have to do, not you as a couple, but you as an individual who is a part of the relationship, have to do to survive your relationship are as follows: 

  1. Get independent.  The earlier you start, the much easier this will be.
  2. Do not, and I repeat, DO NOT worry about the little details.
When you are dependent on somebody you are in a relationship with, it typically does not go very successfully.  Somebody usually gets annoyed of the other, or you both do.  Having your own independence within the relationship 
allows you both to do your own thing.  You don’t have to share the same hobbies, friends, and lifestyle with each other.  In fact, the more things you don’t have in common, the more you have to talk about!  If you do everything together all day long, imagine how little you will have to discuss.  When you went off and did your own thing, and the other person does theirs, at the end of the day you honestly will have so much more to talk about.  You probably even missed each other.  The less you see that person, the more you truly appreciate their presence!  Also, something I have learned about being dependent on somebody in a relationship is that you sort of lose sight of how to socialize on your own!  You can become so dependent on a person, that you forget how to socialize!  You can forget how to go out and just be on your own.  This is why you have to push yourself out there, make your own friends, get your own hobbies.  Seriously, just do what you love doing, do what makes you happy. 
Details, guys.  They can get you into a lot of trouble.  How important are details?  Are they important to you?  How important do they become though, when it comes down to the two of you arguing over every little detail of something that person did that you just can’t seem to understand.  You don’t need an explanation for everything!  That’s why you are in a relationship with this person.  You trust them.  You trust God, because you know he would never steer you wrong.   If this isn’t the person you are meant to spend the rest of your life with, then there are probably some pretty good lessons to be learned out of it .  So, basically, you don’t need to spend your time worrying about every little detail in the relationship.  Every little thing said or done.  Focus on the big picture.  Now, I’m not telling you to ignore all the details and forget about them.  Definitely still pay attention!  Be aware of the details and what is going on with you and what is going on with the relationship.  Just, don’t analyze every little thing.  Because trust me, in the moment something small like that, that really bothers you and you just had to start up that argument, you will regret it later.   It’s just you two in the relationship.  You trust each other.  You love each other.  So, seriously, bite your tongue sometimes.  It’s not worth it.  Once you start letting little things go, that really don’t matter you will feel a difference.  It is way less stressful for you and you can really take time to focus on yourself and on the two of you.  
Have fun together!  It’s your relationship!  Do your own things, but make that special time for each other.   My boyfriend and I live together, but our schedules are about to get really crazy with work and then when school starts, so we decided that we will devote one night a week to each other.  Just the two of us.  We can do whatever we want, no commitments to our schedules.  We can just relax and have fun.  Go out, or do whatever.  Then, the rest of the week we will commit back to our schedules at work and school.  
Just remember to have fun and not worry so much.  Read a lot.  Listen carefully.  And talk only when necessary.
HAPPY GROWING 🙂

Starting Something Inspiring

I am new to business and new to entrepreneurship.   I am new to the idea of “be your own boss”.  I am new to the idea of “hustling”.  Ten months ago, I met my best friend and boyfriend and while getting to know each other and helping each other grow, I have learned so much!  The traditional idea of get a job so you can go to school, so you can get a job working for somebody else for the rest of your life, then retiring long after is not so traditional to me anymore.  Obviously having a job right now is important, I do work for someone else at the moment, and I am going to school to get my degree.  However, what I’m learning is that you can literally do whatever you want to do!  If you need some money, go out and make some money!  If you want to start a business, then start one!  I had a lot of dreams growing up.  Even back when I was in my elementary years I was organizing clubs and groups, and begging my dad to help me start my own business.  I would have been happy with anything!  I mapped it out, planned it out, but didn’t seek it out.  I didn’t have the necessary resources.  I wasn’t raised that way.  I was a little too “creative” to some.  Now, that wasn’t anyone’s fault, that was just the mindset of the community I was raised by.  “Stop dreaming, just finish school and get a good job,” I was told.  “Your ideas are not realistic.”  Let me tell you right now, never stop dreaming!  Last year, we had a dream.  Our dream is coming to life.  We are starting our own business.  People will always shake their heads.  They will always tell you, be realistic and be responsible.    I say follow your dreams AND be realistic and responsible.  I’m still working and I’m still going to school, yet we are starting our own business on the side.  Let me tell you, it’s an amazing feeling.  It’s a very long and not really easy process, but we are patient.  We have never rushed anything.  Success comes with time, patience, and dedication.  That’s exactly what we’ve been doing.  We have so many dreams and ideas I could never possibly put it on paper, but let me tell you that if you have a dream, an idea, or a slightest thought.. RUN WITH IT!  “Shoot for the moon, and if you don’t make it you will land in the stars,” we always tell each other.  

Feel free to check out out blog for one branch of our new business.  We just put it together today and we are very excited!  Expect to see great things from us.  I know we are going to be very successful.  The sky is not the limit.  WE HAVE NO LIMIT.  

CHECK US OUT: http://stylelyte.com

~HAPPY DREAMING~

My Life Update

So, the basic point of this blog is just a quick update on my life.  (Since that is the topic of my page.:) )

I am moving to the city in June.  With my boyfriend that is.  I, personally am very excited and so is he.  It’s a big step in life but it will be a great one.  I’ve never met somebody who brings so much good out of me besides for my family.  My family is part supportive and part not.  My cousins are supportive of me.  Of course they want me to be careful and make the right decisions, but I have their support.  My parents, however are another story.  They are not mad at me (well maybe my dad is.. I hope not..), but they wish I would wait longer.  In my opinion it is the right decision and if it is not, then I will learn it on my own.  That would be on me, not anyone else.  I would not make this decision though, with any doubt in my mind.  I have 100% faith in the relationship I have with my boyfriend and the relationship I have with God and know they will take me far in life.  I know I will work hard and I know I will be successful.   I want to finish school with either marketing or retail merchandising depending on what school I am accepted into.  For either one I have about a year of credits completed so far.  (I had to start over with school, because of my major change.  I used to want to work in medical.)  My boyfriend and I have the entrepreneur mind set and we want to start our own business and be very successful together and grow as people, as a couple, and as business professionals.  

 

I will be transferring to another Maurice’s, however the management team in the store I plan to transfer to is full so I will have to take a part time associate’s position which is fine.   I can find a second part time job in walking distance especially  for the summer.  Its going to be a lot of sacrifice and work but also a lot of new adventures and fun!

New Home

So here’s to growth both personal and business!  To a life time of learning and new opportunities!

Happy Growth!!

To Trust or not to Trust. That is the Question.

trust  |trəst|

noun

1. firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something : relations have to be built on trust | they have been able to win the trustof the others.

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So… what is trust anyways?  What does it mean to trust somebody?  Not just to say I trust you, but to fully put everything you have into their hands knowing it will be ok.  And what do you do when they mess up?  When they do things UNtrustworthy, where do you go with that?  There are many ways to go about it..  Confrontation: assume, ask them, yell, be calm, or just let it go and just forget it happened.  Now, none of these are easy in a situation of this sort.  Confrontation leads to a defensive person.  Not saying anything can stress you out more.  You wonder, “will it ever happen again?”, “what does it mean?”  Honestly, when you are in that situation only you can be the judge of how serious the situation is.  If it repeats itself, it definitely needs to be addressed.  If it’s very minor and only happens once, well everyone makes mistakes, so keep that in mind.

BUT

where’s the fine line?  It’s a question of when do you know to stay and when do you dip out?  And how do you know when to make these tough decisions?  This is something I have struggled with myself, and I don’t have all the answers.  Some situations are black and white- some situations are in a grey area.  Sometimes it’s obvious whether to stay or to go or to trust or to not trust.  Sometimes, however it’s justifiable, sometimes there are excuses, other explanations you never thought of.  But are those true?  Well, do you trust this person?

This can go for any relationship.  A teacher, a boss, a friend, a family member, a boyfriend or girlfriend, yourself even.  And many things go into this.  How long have you known them?  What is their history like?  How close is the relationship?  One thing that I know is hard first of all, how do you trust someone who has hurt you before?  What’s even harder is how do you show someone that you trust them once you do have that trust regained.  Some old habits and insecurities can linger, because you don’t know how else to handle a situation,  and it can send mix messages.  It’s kind of something you have to go through on your own.  It’s more a battle with yourself.  Old you vs. new you.  Only YOU can give yourself your confidence, only YOU can decide who you do and do not trust.

ONLY YOU CAN DO YOU!!!

Never let your past get the best of you, use your best judgement, and eliminate untrustworthy people from your life.  As soon as I started to do this, the circle around me got smaller and smaller, but it got tighter.  The people surrounding you should be inspiring, honest people who push you to be the same!

Trust is a word that goes deep.  I live my life around this word.  Trust and be trusted.  Now, I’ve had some terrible past experiences, but I still trust.  I trust my family, I trust my few friends, I trust my boyfriend.  (I just want to add, even though some people have hurt me that’s where the personal judgement comes in.  Sometimes you will still trust people after they made a mistake.  The people I could not bring myself to trust are gone from my life, but the people I still put my trust into are still very much in my life because I am looking at the big picture and looking at who truly makes me happy.)  Insecurities from being hurt don’t go away over night, but you do have to get over them to be happy with your life.

I am over my insecurities!  I am confident!  I am amazing and happy and anyone who thinks they can do what I do or who thinks they can make me feel otherwise, well they my friend are a fool. =)

"hear me rawr"

The first definition I found on confidence was this:

confidence

noun

1. the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust 

This goes right along with the first definition I found on trust and what I said about a relationship with anyone in your life.  This one is just as important because you should definitely have confidence in someone you invest your time in, during your life.

The next one to consider is the first one you should learn to master.

• a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s ownabilities or qualities 

Happy Reflecting! 🙂